Little White Why's is an easy-to-follow guide for the journey through the relationships of your life. Here's the truth about how to have a successful relationship.
If you can call it that, is that we all need companionship. It's that thing that makes us human. To need and be needed. To give. To share. To be loved. To know that there is someone out there who is genuinely interested in your life and wants nothing more than for you to be happy. For you to feel the same about them.
Find somebody! Get into a relationship. Easy right? Not so fast. For many of us, relationships can be one of the single hardest parts of our lives.
- How do I find that person?
- Where do I begin to look?
- What do I say?
- How do I act?
- How much do I tell?
- When do I tell them?
- Are they going to accept me?
- What if it doesn't work out...again?.
Relationships are hard. We make them harder. The answer to these questions lie in the nature of the question themselves. When we ask ourselves some of these things notice how the focus is on "I" or "me". Which is exactly where it shouldn't be. I humbly suggest you focus on "them". Men and women will tell you everything you need to know, say and do around them if you simply pay attention!
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Have you ever noticed how when asked how they make it work, people in loving stable relationships say, "I don't know...it just always felt right". It just felt right. They focused on the feeling. They will usually go on to tell you that what makes them happy is seeing their significant other happy. Aha! There it is! They focus on the other person. They're paying very specific attention to their partners mood, demeanor, and body language. They look at what is said and not said. They are so in tune with each other that they feel as though they can just 'sense' what's going on and from there they know exactly what to say, how to act, and how much to tell. But...there's always a but...in order to be able to focus on some else's happiness you must first have paid attention to you own.
Be Happy With Yourself:
You must be happy with yourself first! You have to be ok with where you are in life. You have to be ok with who you are as a person. You have to be ok with yourself being single! If not then the focus is too much about you getting what you feel you need and want and not enough about seeing to it that your partner is getting what they feel they need and want. In essence it brings an improper balance to the relationship equation. It's just what my 9th grade Algebra teacher taught me (or at least she tried to teach me)..."The problem is not solved until the equation is balanced!"
What do you really want?
So ladies I put the question to you. Why do you really want to be in a relationship? It is critical that you don't lie to yourself about the answer to this question. Lie to yourself here and you run the risk of starting out a relationship with the improper balance...the wrong type of energy. If your goal is self centered it will be almost impossible to pay the proper attention to what your partner is thinking, saying or doing. While there are many lies that are often told in relationships, this is usually the first. The lie we tell ourselves.
Here's the interesting thing about how men think. (Yes, we do think...sometimes.) As men, we can tell when a woman is more focused on herself than on us. Our natural reaction is to respond in kind. We start to focus on ourselves too. Now we have a relationship equation that is struggling to find the proper balance. There begins to be a constant push and pull. And this is how the lies between men and women begin!
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Ladies this is the start to beginning to understand the minds of men! This site will be a place to share ideas and experiences. This site will be a place for you to come for answers. My hope is that Little White Whys can serve as a handy dandy navigation system on you journey through the relationships in your life!
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I'll share with you what I've learned from my experience with people and their relationships. Everyone is at different stages when it comes to what they want, what they need, and what they're looking for. Everyone is also at different stages when it comes to the particular type of help they need in those relationships. Some people are feeling trapped. Some people are feeling afraid to love again. Some people are feeling angry about the love lost. A lot of people feel the same way! What I've found is that in order for me to be truly helpful I have to make myself available to people at those multiple stages wherever they may be, not just in the beginning or the end.
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